Choice

How often do you hear people say that they simply don’t have a choice? They have to do something. They have to stay in their dead end job. They have do this or that.

The fact of the matter is that you always have a choice. You are never compelled to do something that you don’t choose to do.

Once you make a choice, you have to be prepared for the consequences. That really is the challenge of all choices. Something will happen based on the choice you make. Usually the consequence is beyond your control and reduces your options. If you don’t face your consequences, your choices become more difficult.

Many time people will find themselves in a position where they are being exploited, used or abused. The challenge that these people face is that they simply don’t know they have a choice. They don’t know that they have options. They don’t know that they can make a choice to change their situation.

Sometimes the options seem bleak. Sometimes the hard decision is the right one.

Always there is a choice. continue reading...

I have just started to contribute to a blog... about Mommy's no less. On This Mommy's Gig, there are a few fathers that are posting as well. It is nice because it gives me a forum to talk about my family a little without having to start yet another blog.

My first post is there today at Of Rocks and Trampolines. My favorite part is that down on the right side of the page, I am just one of the "Moms".

Here is an excerpt of what I wrote there.

Civil disobedience in the house. Mass destruction. Defiance of order and peace.

Yeah… I have four kids.

Fortunately, I have a smart wife… with a budget.

My wife reads a lot. She then modifies what she learns to fit our family. She has always taught me that positive reinforcement provides much greater results than anything negative ever could (you can catch more flies…).

 One night, about three months ago, she went to the store and came home with a fish bowl and a lot of decorative rocks.

She had a new idea.

She put the fish bowl on top of a platter that she had and then put all of the rocks around the fish bowl.

The next day, we had a great conversation with the kids. Here were the rules. continue reading...